Want to hazard a guess what the most used “I’m not writing because” excuse is?
I’m pretty sure it is something along the lines of “I don’t have time.” We’ve all used it, I know I have, even before I had children. Is it true though? Do we really not have time or is it a case of prioritising?
If you have time to read, you have time to write.
A couple of years ago, I read an article in a writing magazine about what it takes to write a book. The gentleman who wrote it, apologies for not remembering who it was, covered the “no time” excuse. He said: ‘If you have time to read for fun, you have time to write. If you have time to watch tv, you have time to write.’ That one sentence made me realise that even though I had very little time, I had some. So I too, in theory, had time to write. And so I did.
But it’s not easy after a long day of work, chores, cooking dinners, wiping little bottoms, doing bedtime, finally having your own dinner, cleaning up after dinner, to then sit down and write. Most nights the tv calls or a book beckons. But not doing those things, or at least not every night, is what it will take to finish that book.
So when should I write? And when shouldn’t I?
If you want to be a published author, whichever way you choose to do it, you’re going to have to make sacrifices, it’s as simple as that. I don’t know anyone who thought: “hmmm, what shall I do with those three spare hours in my day? Do you know what? I’ll write a book.” It just doesn’t happen. For me it’s always been important to give up the right things, at the right time. So I’ve come up with a list of what I think is worth sacrificing and when to say no to the story dying to come out of your pen. Here goes……
Should I write when:
• The kids are happily playing for 5 minutes – Yes!
• Waiting for the bus – Definitely.
• On a Saturday night hubby wants to watch a movie with you – No, no, no. This time is important, especially when time together during the week is limited.
• You should really be cleaning – Hell yeah!
• At 5am even though you’d rather be asleep but this is the only time you have that day – Yes! And well done for getting up early.
• During your lunch break – Perfect time to get your word count up.
• The kids ask you to play a game – NO!!! Soon they won’t even want to be in the same room with you, enjoy this time, play, laugh, paint, waste time with them, it’s the best.
• You would normally watch tv – You got it, use that time!
You get the point, sacrifice the things that aren’t important but refuse to let it take time away from those you love.
What do you give up to write? Leave a comment, I’d love to hear from you!